DEALING WITH YOUR EMOTIONS
Let me share with you briefly on controlling your emotions as shared at September edition of S.E.A.L.
7 Tips to controlling your emotions.
1. Control your emotions by looking ahead: before you react, you think of what will happen the next few hours after you have acted, how and what impression will people have about you.
2. Get to know your self: don't pretend the emotions are not there because all of us are emotional beings. Know when you are emotional and why the emotion is at play at the particular point in time.
3. Change your mood, do something different: when you discover that you become emotional especially when they are negative (like anger, envy, jealousy etc), get to change your mood and do something different at that point in time.
4. Observe how others deal with their emotions effective: be watchful and see those who effectively manage their emotions and learn from them by asking them questions.
5. Change you physiology: when your emotions are at play, change your composition, make up as you react. As emotions are physical responses to issues, you need change your physical response to what comes your way.
6. Use your brain: don't always act without thinking. It is better you think before acting than acting before thinking which brings about regret later on.
7. Create spare capacity in your life: because you will always get emotional, work on yourself by creating more capacity in your life to allow for differences in people and in relationship.
With these tips, you can become a controller over your emotions and not the opposite. So many are controlled by their emotions and later regret their actions and finds it difficult to relate with people. Imagine a woman that slapped her husband in the public, and the man in response to that with uncontrollable anger (emotion) beat and naked the wife openly and even dragged the woman home. What impression have they created for themselves in that neighbourhood with uncontrollable emotions?
To manage your emotions further, let see these tips:
* Recognize and understand your own emotions as well as your partner's - we are all emotional beings.
* Always determine the source of your feelings
* Talk about your feelings with each other
* Always acknowledge that your feelings and that of your partner are legitimate and treat as such with control-able approach
* Express your feelings to each other but not in a confrontational way
* Try as much as you can not to react emotionally to your partner's emotional outbursts
* Use gestures like apologies, sympathy notes, shared meals, hand shakes to diffuse negative emotions at a little cost
* Use transformative mediation, dialogue and other problem solving method to deal with highly emotional conflict.
You can live above your emotions (control) if you put somethings in place in your life. When you don't give answer to stupid questions does not mean you don't have an answer or know what you should say, it only shows how matured you are.
Learn and be wise, get matured and live peacefully with others (your partner inclusive).
Pastor 'Wale D. Adekanye
S.E.A.L. Host
Sunday 16 September 2012
Monday 3 September 2012
COST OF DISCIPLESHIP (COST OF BEING A DISCIPLE)
COST OF DISCIPLESHIP (COST OF BEING
A DISCIPLE)
INTRODUCTION
I
want to welcome you all to this segment of the 2012 Evangelical week, and a
very big thank you for given me the opportunity to be here tonight, may the
name of the most High God be praised.
I
am saddled with the assignment of dealing with the topic: ‘cost of discipleship’
to expose the cost we need to count before becoming a disciple or as a
disciple. May the Spirit of God teach us to the in-depth as we go along in Jesus’
name.
Tell
your neighbor, you are welcome to God’s classroom.
Living the Christian life is not always an easy
thing to do. The Christian life as we see it on a Sunday morning is pretty
easy. But the Christian life out there in our families and relationships can be
extremely difficult, costly.
Tell your neighbour, following Jesus will cost
you something!
We
shall look deeply at counting the cost involved in being a disciple by first
looking at what discipleship is all about?
Let
us examine together LUKE 9:57-62 very quickly.
WHAT IS DISCIPLE?
A disciple is a follower of another person who has influence over a person’s
life.
A
disciple in other words is a person who has surrendered the control unit of his
or her life to the authority of Jesus Christ as a personal LORD and Saviour,
and lives accordingly to the glory of the father.
It is an invitation to spiritual warfare over a
long period of time.
WHAT IS DISCIPLESHIP? Discipleship is being a fully devoted follower of Jesus Christ and
making disciples for Christ of all people. Discipleship is not based on sham
emotions and shallow enthusiasm or what I would call “Pep- Rally” Christianity
because these come and go.
COST OF BEING A DISCIPLE
As a disciple, you must be ready to fight,
endure, and battle the forces of darkness if you commit yourself to following
Jesus and His teachings for the long run.
A disciple must be willing to give up things
that get in the way of discipleship.
Deny yourself - You can not give priority to
materials (Luke 18:22-23) - You have adapt to a non-luxurious life (Matthew
8:20) - The top priority should be given to Jesus (Matthew 8:21-22).
Take up your cross - We are called to suffer (1
Peter 2:21, 1 Peter 4:13) - We have to suffer shame (Hebrews 12:2) - We will be
ridiculed (Matthew 27:39) - We will be rejected (1 Peter 2:4) - We have to
suffer death (Acts 10:39).
Follow Jesus Christ everyday - Be a new person
(2 Corinthians 5:17) - Battle against sin by crucifying flesh (Romans 6:1-7, 1
Peter 4:1-2) - Abide in him (John 15:1-17).
Counting the cost of being a disciple has too
aspect to it which Jesus Christ explained in Luke 14:28-33.
-
The
builder – who has option to build or not, but must consider what it will take
to “FINISH” (complete) the building less he becomes a mockery of every
passer-by. You can decide to follow Jesus and live rightly or choose not to –
tell your neighbor – it is a matter of choice!
-
The king
– who wants to go to war, must also consider his military strength to face his
opponent, failure to do so will mean outright destruction. If you refuse to be
a disciple, you are waging a war against the son of God, and there is no way
you could win such.
Being a disciple in this present generation
means you have to stand out and stand for the truth irrespective of what comes
your way or wherever you find yourself, your right standing with God will show
to people that you are truly a follower of Christ and not just one of the many
hypocrites we have around. In you dressing, look, manners, speeches,
conversation, acts inside-out, then people will see your light shine and
through such you can disciple others for Christ.
CONCLUSION
It
is better to decide to be a disciple of Jesus or of Satan because you cannot be
idle, essence why choice is important after this time out. Let’s read together
Philippians 4:8.
I
pray that the God of all ages make us His followers till eternity.
God
bless you all.
PASTOR D. ‘WALE
ADEKANYE
The Mouth Piece of God
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RESPONSIBILITY OF A CHRISTIAN YOUTH IN A CIVIL SOCIETY
RESPONSIBILITY OF A
CHRISTIAN YOUTH IN A CIVIL SOCIETY
TEXT: I PETER 2:11
INTRODUCTION
We
are to discuss in this segment a very vital topic which could shape our lives,
society, and make us heaven bound. ‘Responsibility of a Christian youth in a
civil society’ could also be rephrased as ‘Living responsibly as a Christian
youth in this ungodly society’. My prayer is that the Holy Spirit opens our
mind of understanding to attentively listen and willing take decisions and
actions to live responsibly for God in this dispensation in Jesus’ name – Amen.
I
Peter 2:11 reads
“Dear
friends, I urge you, as aliens and strangers in the world, to abstain from
sinful desires, which war against your soul.” (NIV)
Apostle
Peter clearly states here that we are strangers and aliens in the world which
is full of sinful desires which wages war against the soul which ought to have
relationship with God, reason why he urged us.
WHO IS A YOUTH?
A
youth is anyone whose age falls within the teens and forties. A youth is anyone
who is agile and active. A youth is anyone who is young at heart irrespective
of their age. A youth is anyone who has ability to grow and builds capacity for
growth. A youth is anyone who is growing up and not just growing old.
WHO IS A CHRISTIAN?
A
Christian is anyone who at one time or the other has surrendered his/her life
to Jesus’ ruler-ship and control. A Christian is anyone whose life is
practically lived according to the teaching of Jesus Christ. A Christian is
anyone who is a prototype of the apostles who lived exemplary in Antioch where
the name Christian came into being. A Christian is an in-depth follower of
Jesus Christ day, noon, night, dawn.
WHO IS A CHRISTIAN
YOUTH?
A
Christian youth is a youth whose life is total example of Christ follower in
speech, action, thoughts, relational, dressing (an all round living for Christ
Jesus irrespective of the challenges around).
WHAT DOES CIVIL SOCIETY
STAND FOR?
The
society we live in referred to as civil means it’s a free world where anything
goes irrespective of the religious set ups in it, Satan has made it look as if
there is no God anywhere, there is no eternity anywhere and life goes on as
people just come and go at will. This kind of society is characterized by
stealing, cheating, corruption, idolatry, fornication, adultery, scamming,
ritual killings, kidnapping, lying, lesbianism, gayism, marriage to pet
animals, aristocracy, among others.
We
live in this society also even as Christians, go to same schools, offices,
markets, eateries, banks, live around each other and power of influence is in
the air, it’s either we are influencing them or they are influencing us, reason
why you need to know your identity.
Tell your self –
i need to know my identity!
WHAT IS OUR
RESPONSIBILITIES?
Having
seen that the society we live in is sin entreating, always enticing, luring at
every instance and even the church is entertaining some of these things because
of her being porous, traditionalist nature and less emphasis on salvation of
souls.
As
a Christian youth who knows fully well his/her identity as an alien/stranger on
this land, these are the responsibilities (duties) expected from us. We are
expected to be:
ü Light
bearers – Matthew 5:14-16
ü God
carriers (ambassadors) – Daniel 1:8, 11-15 (Daniel & 3 Hebrew boys)
ü Peacemakers
– Daniel 2:11-14 (Daniel)
ü Intercessors
– Nehemiah 1:4-7 (Nehemiah)
ü Solutions
– Genesis 41:25, 37-39 (Joseph)
ü Gospel
sharers – II Timothy 4:1-2 (Timothy), Titus 2:1 (Titus)
ü Kingdom
seekers and getters – Matthew 7:7, Matthew 6:33
HOW TO ATTAIN?
Romans
12:1-3 categorically tells us what to do to keep being a responsible youth
living for the glory of God. Giving oneself as a living (practically living a life of self denial for the sake of Christ and the gospel) sacrifice (offering oneself on the altar of God, dead to sin but alive to righteousness), holy and acceptable, from time to time renewal of character, attitude, lifestyle in a transforming manner which goes far to affect and influence others around in a positive way. This is what God expects from His children in the corrupt and degrading society.
CONCLUSION
So
far, you know what to do and how to live rightly in this degenerated
generation, all left for you is to decide to practice accordingly. Tell your
neighbor – it’s a matter of choice!
Let’s read I Peter 2:12 together.
God
bless you all and make you live responsibly in this world and be rapturable in
Jesus’ name – Amen.
PASTOR ‘WALE D.
ADEKANYE
The Mouth Piece of God
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